Mental health conditions
What is a midlife crisis? Signs, causes and coping tips
Understand what a midlife crisis really means, spot the early signs, and find out how therapy can help you reclaim a sense of direction.
By Dr. Juli Fraga, Psy.D • Clinically reviewed by Anne Jackson, LPC
Picture this: A middle-aged man suddenly feels bored with his life. Thirsting for excitement, he makes a rash decision and buys a motorcycle. In pop culture, this scenario is often depicted as a “midlife crisis.” In reality, however, a midlife crisis is more than a punchline or a movie cliché.
A midlife crisis is a real and often disorienting psychological transition. Similar to puberty, midlife can feel like an emotional roller coaster. You may feel restless or anxious. You may question life’s meaning or your values. These experiences aren’t related to vanity — often, they’re connected to the way your identity, purpose, and timelines collide in midlife.
Read on to learn what a midlife crisis is and how to recognize the signs. In this guide, you’ll also learn about some common causes and what to do if you find yourself feeling unsettled during midlife.
What is a midlife crisis?
A midlife crisis typically occurs between the ages of 40 and 60. It’s a period of personal reevaluation when it’s common to question your identity, purpose, and the meaning of the choices you’ve made thus far.
A midlife crisis can leave you feeling stressed, unsettled, and out of control. However, it’s not a formal psychiatric diagnosis; it’s a life transition that’s been recognized by psychologists since the 1960s.
While pop culture often depicts a midlife crisis as someone purchasing a sports car, it’s more likely to look like someone who no longer knows who they are, or someone who regrets their career path.
Individual differences, such as gender, relationship status, life circumstances, and mental health history can influence your midlife experience. Culture can also play a role. In some cultures, aging is seen as wisdom. The psychologist Carl Jung referred to midlife as the “afternoon of life.” From his perspective, it was a period of self-reflection, not necessarily a time of crisis.
Signs of a midlife crisis
A persistent sense of restlessness or dissatisfaction
You might feel bored, restless, or dissatisfied with your work or routine. You might have an itch to make a drastic change or overhaul your life, but not know why.
Questioning identity outside of work and caregiving
If you have children, you may question who you are outside of parenting, especially as your kids get older. You may also question your identity outside of work, especially as you near retirement age.
Heightened awareness of aging and limited time
As you get older, you may become more worried about how much time you have left. You may question what you want to do with the rest of your life. These questions may feel even more pressing if you’ve faced a health scare or illness.
Withdrawal from relationships or pursuit of new ones
Your relationships might feel stale or unsatisfying. These feelings may cause you to withdraw and seek out new social connections.
Impulsive decisions or abrupt lifestyle changes
Big purchases, rash decisions, or increased substance use can be ways of coping with feelings that feel too overwhelming to sit with directly — though it's worth reflecting on what's driving them. Increasing alcohol use in particular is worth paying attention to, as it can worsen mood and sleep over time.
Persistent changes in mood or motivation
You may feel sad, irritable, or regretful. You might have less patience with your kids, coworkers, or your partner. Or you might feel like happiness is hard to find, no matter how much you try.
What causes a midlife crisis?
Confronting mortality and the passage of time
As you age, it’s common to confront mortality. You may take stock of your life and question your contribution to your community.
Psychologist Erik Erikson called midlife a time of “generativity vs stagnation.” During this phase, people strive to nurture relationships or contribute to causes that will outlive them. If you don’t derive meaning from what you’ve done, you may feel stagnant. This can cause you to feel disconnected from your relationships and community.
Shifting or collapsing life roles
During midlife, life roles often shift. Parents confront being “empty nesters” as their kids leave home. As you inch towards retirement, you may also confront the loss of your work identity. These identity shifts can feel confusing and unsettling.
The weight of accumulated or unaddressed stress
Accumulated emotional and financial stress can take a toll. You may have more worries and feel more anxious about the future.
The menopause transition
Women may be affected by the bodily and hormonal changes that accompany the menopause transition. This life change coincides with midlife. Symptoms of perimenopause, such as mood and sleep changes, generally begin in your 40s and last for up to ten years, or until you reach menopause.
The gap between expected and actual life
Life stressors, such as caring for a family member, unemployment, illness, or financial strain, can derail your personal goals. At midlife, you may feel disappointed if the life you wanted differs from the one you’ve lived thus far.
How to cope with a midlife crisis
Name what is happening without minimizing it
Validate your experience without minimizing what you’re going through. Instead of telling yourself, “This shouldn’t be a big deal,” remind yourself that your thoughts and feelings matter.
Practice gratitude
Alongside the difficult thoughts, some people find it helpful to notice something that's going well — a relationship, a moment of health, or a small win. Gratitude won't quiet every worry, but it can gently widen your perspective.
Make changes slowly and with intention
Instead of making rash decisions, approach change slowly. For example, if you’re considering a big purchase or a career move, take time to consider the pros and cons of your choices.
Direct your energy toward what you can control
Identify what you can control and direct your energy towards these things. Focusing on what you can change helps you feel empowered rather than defeated.
Give yourself permission to grieve
Midlife comes with loss, such as shifting relationships, ill family members, and career changes. Try not to ignore your emotions. Instead, name and validate and give yourself permission to grieve.
Consider working with a therapist
Speaking with a therapist can provide support and help you navigate this life transition. Headway connects you with thousands of licensed mental health providers who accept insurance, with coverage across all 50 states and more than 70 insurance plans.
When a midlife crisis looks like something more
A midlife crisis and clinical depression can share significant symptoms, including low mood, isolation, loss of motivation, and withdrawal. The difference, however, is that a midlife crisis centers on questions of identity and reevaluating the meaning of life. Symptoms often shift with environmental changes, such as spending time with friends, engaging in a new hobby, or exercising.
Mental health professionals may diagnose someone going through a midlife crisis with “adjustment disorder.” Adjustment disorder is a diagnosable mental health condition in the DSM-5. It describes an emotional or behavioral response to an identifiable stressor, with symptoms that typically improve once the stressor has resolved.
Depression, on the other hand, is characterized by a persistent low mood, loss of interest in pleasurable activities, and low motivation. With depression, symptoms do not resolve when your circumstances change.
During a midlife crisis, you may be tempted to make rash decisions, though you know you’re not typically impulsive. Impulsive behaviors, such as out-of-character spending and drinking too much, can be features of a hypomanic or manic episode, not just a midlife crisis.
Midlife transitions can understandably increase stress and worry. However, when anxiety becomes persistent, excessive, difficult to control, or begins interfering with daily functioning, it may reflect more than a typical response to life changes. In these cases, speaking with a therapist can help determine whether symptoms are consistent with a mental health condition, such as generalized anxiety disorder, or another underlying concern.
FAQs
How long does a midlife crisis generally last?
Everyone’s experience differs. For some, the crisis is short-lived, but others may experience symptoms until the life transition resolves or they find additional support. Support can include talking with friends, attending support groups, or talking with a therapist.
What is the difference between a midlife crisis and burnout?
Burnout is a stress syndrome. It’s characterized by feeling like you have nothing left to give. With burnout, it’s common to withdraw from work and social relationships and derive less enjoyment from life.
During a midlife crisis, you may question the meaning of life and consider a career change, but these questions arise due to the life transition, not because you’ve reached a breaking point.
Is the midlife crisis experience different for women?
Midlife brings unique challenges for women. As you near menopause, hormones shift. These changes can disrupt your mood and cause uncomfortable physical symptoms like hot flashes. These emotional and physical symptoms can make a midlife crisis feel more overwhelming. In terms of male midlife crises, men ages 45–64 are in one of the highest-risk demographics for suicide in the U.S., and may benefit from professional support.
If you or someone you know is in crisis, support is available. Call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line), or call 911 for a mental health emergency.
Getting support through a midlife transition
Navigating the identity questions, mood changes, and relational pressures of a midlife crisis is easier with the right support. Talking with a therapist can help. Your therapist can help you decide what type of therapy is right for you — and can teach you tools to cope with your thoughts and feelings. At Headway, we make it easy for you to find a therapist who accepts your insurance, guides you through different seasons of life, and helps you reach your goals.
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